"Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil (it tends only to evil).” Psalm 37:8
In 2020, COVID brought with it some spare time for many of us as we were not going out anywhere. Life seemed to be at a standstill, and we were relegated to our homes. I am not sure what got into my wife, but she began to look around the house and decided she wanted to spruce up the guest bathroom. I grew up for the most part in a home that had only one bathroom, and the most sprucing up we did to it was put new tile in because it needed it. Rebekah and I live in a fairly new home, so I questioned why we were sprucing up the perfectly fine guest bathroom. My questioning came for nought as Rebekah played the role of general contractor, and I the role of subcontractor.
Rebekah wanted to change out the faucet to a different color, although the current faucet was in perfect working condition. She also wanted to accent the wall which was already painted and even had some art on it. She had some other plans to put in shelves and install a new mirror, although there was nothing wrong with the mirror already in there. I looked at her self-approved plans and we went shopping for the faucet, accent wall tiles, shelves and mirror. I am not handy at all, and what would take most people an hour usually takes me 3 to 4 hours. Even so, I figured it was not too complicated and something I could manage.
The first task I set out to do was to change out the faucet, which seemed easy enough. I began to remove the old faucet and the hoses and other components came off with relative ease. I next tried to disconnect the current drain to install the new drain, and I hit a real road block. The space between the wall and the drain nut did not leave much room for my Fred Flinstone hands, and I was having trouble reaching the nut to loosen it. I bought special tools from Home Depot only to return them later as they turned out to be futile. I phoned a friend for help and even picked my neighbor’s brain as to what to do as he is quite handy. My inability to loosen the nut only raised my blood pressure and my anger began to grow.
My general contractor tried to assist, but I just yelled at her and told her that I did not understand why we even had to change out the faucet as there was nothing wrong with the old faucet. She was only trying to help me, but I needed someone to blame for my lack of skill. I sat on the ground and stared helplessly at my tools, but I knew there was something else that I was capable of fixing. I got up off of the floor and apologized for my anger I imposed on my wife. There was nothing she did wrong, and it was all on me that I allowed myself to get so angry. I tried the drain nut again later with the same tool I had used before and the nut actually turned, and I was able to replace the drain only six hours behind schedule.
Do you tend to lose your temper when things do not go your way? Do you get frustrated at others even though they have done nothing to you? Are there people in your life you need to apologize to because of your anger towards them? As Jim Berg explains, our "hot water" circumstances in life only draw out what is already inside us. It is so easy to deflect and blame other people, the government, the situation, or our bad luck instead of taking personal responsibility for our heart issue. In times of frustration, may we pause and ask for God’s help to respond correctly instead of reacting in the flesh. May we pass our next sanctification test, and may we not fail because we are quick to anger and strife. Proverbs 15:18 states, “A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.” May God help us in moments of frustration, and may we please Him even when we face stubborn drain nuts.
Stay in the fight!